Now that you know what NOT to do when kissing, here are our tips on how to be a sexy kisser.
Timing is Everything: Initiating a kiss at the wrong time can be a disaster, but at the right time, its bliss. How do you know the right time? Check out their body language, baby! Are they leaning into you? Starring soulfully (or lustily) in your eyes? Licking their lips? These are all sure-tell signs they want to kiss. So, lean in closer, and stare into their eyes, then look at their lips. If they don’t pull away, it is probably time for a sexy kiss.
If You’re Not Sure, Ask: If for some reason you are not good at reading body language signals, just ask. Say something like: “I would really like to kiss you right now.” Most likely they will be flattered and agree. If not, then maybe they just weren’t that into you to begin with. Better to find out before you kiss them and embarrass yourself while creeping them out in the process.
Don’t Stare: While gazing soulfully in their eyes is cool before the kiss, staring at them close up while kissing at close range can be a bit, well, strange. So, if you like gazing while kissing, do it via veiled lids and a soft gaze or close your eyes altogether. Unless the other person is into eye-gazing during kissing too, then, hey, what-ever floats your boat.
No Tongue: As a rule of tongue (sorry!), don’t use yours within the first second of kissing. Keep that tongue in your mouth and brush your lips against theirs ever-so-gently at first to gauge their reaction. Slowly increase the pressure of the kiss, and finally you can slightly part your lips and touch the tip of your tongue to their lip. If they follow suite, then game on. But, if they don’t respond to your tongue by offering their own, best to keep it in your mouth for now. If they want tongue, delaying it will heighten their response when they finally get it.
Go Slow: Sexy Kissing is not a race. There is no finish line… well, not exactly. Take your time, go slow, gradually build up the passion. Experiment, try different techniques, ways of kissing and types of kisses. Change it up, and learn what they like. You’ll know when they start moaning that you are doing it right. Mmm…!
Mirror Their Movements: Follow your partner’s lead, or allow them to follow yours as you kiss, so you are mirroring each other’s movements. This makes the kiss more like a seductive dance, where you are following each other’s erotic dance moves. There is nothing worse when she is trying to Waltz while he is doing the Jive.
Be in the Moment: Erase everything from your mind except for that one kiss. Let go of fears, worries, what you were doing an hour ago, or what you may be doing later. Be in the moment, because it is easy to tell when someone is distracted during a kiss. And, there is nothing so off-putting, as you basically telling them, they are not worth the time to focus on them during the kiss. Not only that, but really embodying (getting out of your head and into your body) the kiss helps you feel more bliss and endorphins, as well as be better able to feel their passion and respond to them on a deeper erotic level.
Use Your Hands: Ya, duh!, I know. It goes without saying, but, touch them, hold them, feel them, move them, while giving them your sexy kiss! Cradle the back of their head, run your fingertips through their hair, and over their ears, lips, jawbone, and neck. Then, if they like it, try other sexier areas to touch: lower back, butt, breasts, chest, waist.
Erogenous Zones: All those places I just named off to touch with your hands, follow up with your lips, kiss, and tongue. And, don’t forget the collarbone. Yep… It’s all good!
Take a Break: Is the kiss starting to lose passion? Are your lips sore or tired? Is it feeling a bit awkward? No problem, take a break. A sexy kiss doesn’t need to be a marathon session. Leave something to be desired. You can always get back to it again later!