Some Say These Erotic Massage Techniques Are Better than Sex
Written by JH
Some say a good massage is better than sex. With that said, there are definitely some days I would take an erotic massage over sex in a heartbeat. And this actually makes perfect sense as our brain releases the same feel-good chemicals as it does when we are getting busy between the sheets.
In general, a traditional massage involves rubbing the muscles with light gliding strokes. The goal of a traditional massage is to relax the entire body as well as work out kinks in the body. But what about Erotic massage? Well, that’s where it gets a bit more sultry. The main difference between traditional massage and sexual massage is, well you can probably guess: sexual arousal. Curious about how to give a sensual massage? It is indeed not rocket science, but there are some basic techniques you should learn before getting started. If you really want to know how to give an out-of-this-world massage, you can start by using the following erotic massage techniques. Listen closely, there is so much to soak up in the sensual territory of hot erotic massage techniques!
The Erotic Massage Vs. The Traditional Massage
Generally, when we think of massages, we think of traditional massage. As mentioned above, a traditional massage usually involves rubbing and kneading of muscles of the body with the hands. Its primary intention is to relieve tension or pain.
While traditional massage may manifest feelings of arousal, it’s certainly not the goal.
Traditional massages leave out “private zones”. Meaning, in a traditional massage, there should be no poking or prodding whatsoever of or around the genitals. Erotic massage, on the other hand, is explicitly used to tap into a person’s erogenous zones.
An erotic massage is where all your happy ending fantasies come true.
With that said, there are many different types of massage therapies you can incorporate into your erotic massage. Once you have nailed down the basics of erotic massage, you can certainly incorporate more mainstream techniques.
And massage techniques such as hot stone massage, or aromatherapy can be a great way to “up-your-game”.
For ideas on more traditional massage therapies check out the basic strokes of Swedish massage.
What About Tantric Yoni Massage?
You have probably heard about Tantric Yoni Massage. Tantric Yoni Massage taps into the idea of sacred sexuality. This particular type of massage is used to target the woman’s vagina while learning to approach it with the utmost love and adoration. Whereas erotic massage focuses on arousal, tantric massages focus is on healing and tend to be more mindful.
At the end of the day, a good erotic massage differs from traditional massage because its primary objective is to enhance sexual stimulation. If an erotic massage results in an orgasm that’s pretty awesome too, but it’s not the goal.
By integrating the following sexual massage tips, erotic massage can be damn well near orgasmic. Furthermore, these tips can actually help boost overall sexual happiness and connection between you and your partner.
How To Erotic Massage: Six Sexual Massage Tips
Tip #1: Dim The Lights: Set The Mood
Not everyone likes to get down and dirty with the lights off. If you are anything like me, you actually prefer to see your partner in the nude clearly. Whether you prefer lights on or off, setting the mood prior to an erotic massage is vital.
Aunt Flo and Her Mojo
In general, women tend to be more sensitive to the cues from their environment than men. In other words, a woman’s brain is much more susceptible to being turned off or on if the mood isn’t quite right. If you are looking for erotic massage techniques for her, it is best to figure out when she will menstruate next.
Why is it important to keep tabs on your partner’s Aunt Flo? Well, according to Dr. Louann Brizendine, the author of “The Female Brain” women are hornier about 10 days after the onset of menstruation, right before ovulation.
So, if you are looking to give your female partner a sensual rub-down, ask her thoughtfully when she menstruated last.
Turned-On Playlist
Whether you are giving a massage to your male or female partner, music will play an essential role in setting the mood. That is to say, neither heavy metal nor cheesy elevator music is probably the right choice when choosing a sexy playlist. If you really want to dance your partner’s pants off choose soft rhythmic beats.
Short on ideas? Try this sassy Spotify mix: relaxing music to love.
Sexy Sanctuary Lighting
Other sexy erotic massage techniques that can help “set the mood” include, sensual lighting. Start by using warm or earthy colors to make your partner feel cozy and loved. This could mean using a few tapestries to cover stark white walls. Want to really spice things up?
Use some sexy mood lighting, and no, I am not talking about the lava lamp you used as a kid.
If you really want to make the erotic massage extra sensual, try hanging up some Christmas lights and a few strategic candles. Want to crank up the kink even more? Then spark it up with some deliciously scented erotic aromas like jasmine or sandalwood, to really set the stage for hot and spa-like sensual massage.
Take Your Sexy Time
Speaking of candles, hot massage candles can be great for a little bit of sexy wax play – but more on that later. Ultimately, one of the most Important things to consider when “setting the mood” is time.
Why is it important to keep tabs on your partner’s Aunt Flo? Well, according to Dr. Louann Brizendine, the author of “The Female Brain” women are hornier about 10 days after the onset of menstruation, right before ovulation.
So, if you are looking to give your female partner a sensual rub-down, ask her thoughtfully when she menstruated last.
Turned-On Playlist
Whether you are giving a massage to your male or female partner, music will play an essential role in setting the mood. That is to say, neither heavy metal nor cheesy elevator music is probably the right choice when choosing a sexy playlist. If you really want to dance your partner’s pants off choose soft rhythmic beats.
Short on ideas? Try this sassy Spotify mix: relaxing music to love.
Sexy Sanctuary Lighting
Other sexy erotic massage techniques that can help “set the mood” include, sensual lighting. Start by using warm or earthy colors to make your partner feel cozy and loved. This could mean using a few tapestries to cover stark white walls. Want to really spice things up?
Use some sexy mood lighting, and no, I am not talking about the lava lamp you used as a kid.
If you really want to make the erotic massage extra sensual, try hanging up some Christmas lights and a few strategic candles. Want to crank up the kink even more? Then spark it up with some deliciously scented erotic aromas like jasmine or sandalwood, to really set the stage for hot and spa-like sensual massage.
Take Your Sexy Time
Speaking of candles, hot massage candles can be great for a little bit of sexy wax play – but more on that later. Ultimately, one of the most Important things to consider when “setting the mood” is time.
Erotic massage is all about tantalizing the receiving partner’s arousal, and this of course takes time.
Therefore, make sure you choose a time when you have nothing else going on. That means turning your phone ringer and Facebook notifications to silent.
Tip #2: Use Sexy and SAFE Communication
I can’t stress enough how crucial safe communication is during any type of erotic play. Therefore, before performing any erotic massage techniques, it is absolutely vital to check in with your partner.
There may be parts of the body that your partner prefers to flag as “off limits”. Safe communication is an absolute must and a recent study suggests that people who communicate their likes and dislikes to their partners during sex are more sexually satisfied.
Using safe techniques during an erotic massage can actually be very fun and empowering!
That’s because secure and sexy communication develops trust between two people. Obviously right? To help you get started, below are some simple ways you effectively incorporate communication in a sexy and safe way.
Always start slow using the hand as a starting point. Experiment with a few strokes on the palm and have your partner vocalize things like “Yes that feels good” or “I don’t like that” or “Keep going”.
Define safe words if things get too heavy or uncomfortable. These words can be as simple as “stop” or, “that doesn’t feel so good”. If words seem to blunt, you and your partner can also establish safe sounds or gestures that will stop or slow down the erotic touch immediately.
Keep the verbal communication flowing from the initiation of the erotic massage to the conclusion.
The receiving partner is given the freedom to speak up, while the giving partner is welcome to ask the receiver questions when they need feedback.
Check in after the massage is over. See what came up for your partner. Be empathetic and understanding.
Now that we have our secure communication defined, let’s move on. Things are about to get a little slippery.
Tip #3: Props, Oils, and Toys Oh My!
Ever dreamed about an erotic massage using oil, wax or toys? Along with setting the mood, pleasure can be enhanced in an erotic massage by using things like hot candle wax or natural oils. My favorite lube to use for erotic massage is coconut oil. Coconut oil is ideal because it is safe for both inside and outside parts.
Furthermore, natural oils like five tablespoons of honey mixed with two cups of almond oil and two tablespoons of rose oil can really help lather up your partner’s sultry folds. You can also check out synthetic oils like, edible massage oils, that are non-toxic and edible and great to use in the bedroom.
If you are feeling extra randy, you can use hot candle wax that is made for massage play.
But be careful, not all candle wax is equal. Third-degree burns are the opposite of a happy ending to an erotic massage. To safely use candle wax during a massage, make sure you are using candles that are designed explicitly for erotic play.
Toys are not essential when performing an erotic massage, but they can add some zest. If you want to incorporate toys, keep them simple. These can include a handheld massager like this one that can travel with you anywhere. You can also use a dildo for a better orgasm.
A weekend getaway filled with an erotic massage and a traveling vibrator? Get ready for your receiving partner to melt into a puddle of passionate mush, while screaming out your name. Oh Yes!
Tip #4: The Right Kind of Touch
Honestly, there are so many touch techniques you can use when giving an erotic massage. To simplify things, I am going to offer a method called “fingertips to kneading”.
Many of these techniques come from “Swedish massage”, which is probably the best-known type of bodywork performed today.
You can surprise your partner by integrating a few of the following refined touch tactics into your erotic massage.
Effleurage: Start with long gliding strokes that sweep across the muscles. These strokes should be performed with the palm of the hand.
Petrissage: When you reach the bigger muscles begin to use kneading, rolling, and lifting strokes. This will help you achieve deeper massage penetration of the tissues.
Rhythmic Tapping: Perform “rhythmic tapping” by using the fists, and the size of the hands begin “tapping” the muscles to energize them. Practice using a variety of pressure and speed. You can also “cup” your hands to create a more rhythmic percussion.
Friction: Rub your hands together rapidly and immediately place your hands back on your partner’s body. Use friction to relax the muscles and prep your partner for more profound work.
Vibration/Shaking: Use vibration to help loosen the muscles by performing a “rocking action” using the heel of the hand over the skin.
Vibrate or “tremble” the entire muscle with the hand, using rapid or soft movements
While experimenting with these techniques, you may find that your partner prefers more pressure or less. Either way, it’s essential to start with light feathery fingertip massaging, to begin with. This will help escalate arousal.